Lots of confusion on the difference between calm and gentle teaching and permissiveness. We don't have to be harsh or punitive to address a problematic behavior and draw limits and boundaries with our kids. Think of yourself at a new job (a place where you are learning). Would you be more successful if someone was constantly docking your pay and slamming their fists on your desk when you messed up? Or would it be great if they had resources and metaphors and patience with you as you figured out